Tim Keller - Love's Constraints the Ultimate Freedom

Timothy Keller:

"Love is the most liberating freedom-loss of all.

One of the principles of love--either love for a friend or romantic love--is that you have to lose independence to attain greater intimacy. If you want the 'freedoms' of love--the fulfillment, security, sense of worth that it brings--you must limit your freedom in many ways. You cannot enter a deep relationship and still make unilateral decisions or allow your friend or lover no say in how you live your life. To experience the joy and freedom of love, you must give up your personal autonomy." (p. 47-48)

Love is not without constraints, and constraints are not always bondage.

For instance see this law which is love:

"Only be very careful to observe the commandment and the law that Moses the servant of the Lord commanded you, to love the Lord your God, and to walk in all his ways and to keep his commandments and to cling to him and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul.”

Jos. 22:5